Really good friends are hard to come by. We get through huge amounts of acquaintances in our lives, passing traffic at work, college or on holiday. As we get older we lose touch with people that we really care about, simply because distance or busy lives get in the way. Good, lasting friendships — like any relationship — need maintenance.
Just because the all-important chemistry is missing from a relationship, you may well share a number of the other important factors that help build deep friendship. As well as that shared sense of humour; these might include a similar outlook on life, like—minded political views, shared interests or the same background. If you have dated men and it hasn’t worked out, then in time, one or two of these guys could become really good mates. Providing that your ex doesn’t still pine after you, or expect this new-found friendship could really be an overture to getting back together, then make that approach. Ask him out, share your current life experiences. A close male friend or two is something really special, especially when you both know that it’s the only issue on the agenda.